I think this is a great way to start a conversation about anger. Anger is not an action, it is an emotion which is one of the body’s neurological responses to stress. When we feel anger it is essential to our survival. It responds to fear.
The physiological responses of bunched muscles, increased heart rate, rapid breathing, just to name a few put us in a state of high alert, ready for action, until we locate the cause of the anger/fear.
So what happens next. A while ago it was considered bad form to feel and express anger. We were told it was a sign of weakness, that we must transmute it into love or something more passive.
In recent times it is recognised how important it is to recognise and express all of our emotions, even anger. So why does anger feel so scary and why do we, at first, want to push it away?
Anger is usually associated with fear. If we face our anger, we must also confront a fear. If your anger is sustainable it will override any anxiety about what we are facing. Perhaps deep down we know the need to release the physical reactions will give us relief.
If your anger is short lived and you are left with the fear or anxiety. This is uncomfortable and you may want to push down the fear/anxiety, forget it ever existed, or talk yourself out of it. This could lead to your anger being with you for longer.
Unexpressed anger could manifest as physical and/or emotional symptoms. For myself, my personal health issues, stem from unexpressed anger.
I remember in my 20’s when I would have an anger release how much my chronic pain receded and how good I felt. It was a revelation… I used my anger to stop fooling myself that my life was going to improve and faced the truth of my situation. I used the momentum of my anger to facilitate change. Every time fear rose up, the anger overtook it. I was tired of making excuses for other peoples poor behaviour but mostly I was tired of making myself small to accommodate that poor behaviour. In a way, my anger made me large and imposing. My anger helped me feel invincible. I was tapped into my truth and nothing could hurt me in that moment.
I have seen this played out by the incredible Grace Tame, the current Australian of The Year. You can see her anger is being channelled in a very healthy way. You can see how articulate she is, she does not back down and continues to support herself in every sense.
This is what a healthy response to anger gives us. It gives us the power to maintain the courage of our convictions because it is YOUR TRUTH, and no longer will you fall into oppression.
Once you feel this amazing innate power you will never forget how strong you were and your energetic vibrations increases, you release another layer and move towards your true nature. You can draw on this memory to never feel that fear again. That is the true gift of anger. You connect to a greater part of you that nothing and nobody will ever violate again. You can build on this feeling because if you can do it once and survive the process then you must be able to apply it again when needed.
P.S. I do not wish to make light of anger expression when some of us have incredible difficulty verbalising our pain. Ancestral conditioning or even past life repression can be the source of this fear and this type of anger expression and/or release requires specific therapies. (see Spiritual Wellbeing and Past Life Regression for an appointment)
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