I want to tell you a story about how our thoughts are energy and how I found this out with funny but far reaching consequences.
One day I was attending a group healing open day in the 90’s. This was once a month in a big hall with lots of healing tables set up. Many qualified healers were there and you rocked up, put your name down and received a healing.
I had attended a couple of these days and knew some in the healing community. This was early in my learning days. I immersed myself in as many of these types of activities as I could. Healing was my favourite because I could bliss out for 30 minutes and get an amazing energy boost.
On this particular day I was receiving a healing by one of the best healers there, really looking forward to my bliss out, lay down and boom!! I had a talker beside me.
I was a little annoyed to begin and thought they would be like me and eventually zone out and become still. No way, the healer and the recipient just kept chatting about really mundane things.
I decided to ignore it, tried to find my zen and became increasingly frustrated to the point of anger. I was yelling at this person, in my head, to “just shut up.” I would never be so rude, nor bold enough, to say something like that out loud. And my anger grew, then this happened…
The healer exclaimed “Oh! You’ve got a blue ring around your neck!! It just turned up! I wonder where that came from?”
It came from me… My frustration, my anger, my thoughts created a blue ring around her neck to make her quiet. I was embarrassed and a little bit amazed that that could happen. That was one of my first confirmations that our thoughts create energy and I received instant results on that message.
On reflection the following things have occurred to me.
I did not consciously create the ring. The spirit world worked with me to create the best way to make that lady quiet.
The blue ring was not created maliciously. I did not wish her any specific harm, I just wanted some quiet time.
The blue ring was a demonstration of how energy is created from thoughts. We all have thoughts.
There was no shame in what happened, it happened in a healing and safe environment, it was meant to be.
Here is my message to you. Be mindful that your thoughts are energy and where you direct your thoughts so will the energy flow. Thoughts happen so quickly and randomly that we cannot be conscious of all the things we think, we cannot control everything. Be mindful of how you are feeling. Chances are your thoughts are creating discord in your body. Listen to the body, not the thoughts. Once you become aware your thoughts are creating the discord you have the opportunity to make the choices you want for your best life. Spirit/guides are our helpers and will boost any energy you are generating, including thoughts. They are not your boss/parent, they are your guidance. You are always in control.
I sat down to write about boundaries for my students and something wonderful happened. Every time I wrote a bit down I was pushed and extended past what I thought boundaries meant. I have written about boundaries before in previous blogs and I want to share something I had never considered previously....
We all talk about strengthening our boundaries but how do you tell when your boundaries are being compromised. What happens?
I really had to think about what that means to me as a practitioner, as a teacher and personally.
Firstly we need to identify what boundaries are and where they are stored in our psyche or soul. Boundaries are a part of living as a human. We choose our boundaries and we enforce those boundaries. We have been taught the boundaries we live by and we have created boundaries through lived experience. Lets keep it simple. We have two types of boundaries, lets look at what they are and how we experience them…
#1 Learned boundaries
Learned boundaries begin in childhood and through our lived experiences we shift and change them as we become more at ease with our world and our part in it. For example, you may have not enjoyed broccoli as a child however as your tastes changed and you became a little more adventurous in your palette you introduced it to your diet, learned how to prepare it and voila you realise that broccoli is not so bad after all. This boundary represents your values. You will feel the boundary challenge in the body. It is visceral. This is your excitement and anxiety (solar plexus), intuition (sacral chakra), soul (heart chakra) all reaching out to say things are changing. Your body is the barometer so listening to it will keep you healthy, creative and feeling in control. This is always Self Growth.
My prescription: meditation to learn to listen to your body/soul. Exercise to become aware of the subtle nuances of the body.
#2 Self Imposed boundaries
This boundary is one of fear and in some instances trauma. This boundary is decided on by our belief system and can be somewhat more difficult to shift. An example would be where you have a phobia, superstition and outdated religious beliefs. No amount of logic, cajoling or forcing ourselves will shift your deep seated conviction that something bad will happen if you defy this self imposed boundary. This boundary is felt in the mind and can present itself as chronic anxiety (brow chakra), depression (sacral or base chakra) and rage (throat or base chakra). The self imposed boundary is the antithesis of change and expansion. When this boundary is being challenged it is difficult to identify. It presents itself as a lie and therefore sends us off on a distracting quest to frustration when nothing makes sense or is resolved. With mindful precision you can catch this challenge and master the fear. I promise it is doable and requires real dedication to your mental wellbeing.
My prescription: Past Life Regression, Regular Counselling, Reiki, regular group meditation, mindfulness training. The best way to gain control of this boundary shift is to ignore the story/lie the mind wants to impose and stay with the emotion/feeling until it too disappears. No adding to the trauma by making up excuses, just be present.
These boundaries will only become apparent to you when you are more than ready to move them on or strengthen (for your highest good only here) them. The stronger they affect you the stronger the change and the greater the benefit to you as a person. My personal mission has always been: if I can be my best self then that will ripple out into the universe and give strength and love to all. I can only be my best when my cup is full. Only then can I give to others. Strong, healthy boundaries give me the space to be my best self. I have lived with physical pain and personal trauma all my life and living my life as a spiritual being has been the best decision I have ever made. My spirituality gives me something to live for and I will back myself at every turn. It works, and it works well.
If you are ever feeling low or not understanding when you are feeling blocked or stuck, contact me for some Soul Coaching and we will work together to make a difference in your life.
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This week on the road I was confronted with a dilemma, do I or don’t I...
I am not sure if I have ever shared it here but I have a disability which I have lived with since I was 19. Every once in a while I am faced with a decision about what physical discomfort I am prepared to endure in order to have a positive life affirming experience. Sometimes I must decline because the risks are too great, sometimes it is not as difficult as I expected and sometimes I give it a go and see how far I can take it. I was presented with a challenging bush walk and decided to see how I would fare. It was a little scary and there was potential for real damage but I used my intuition and made those conscious decisions step by step. As I was going along my walk I marvelled at how much I was able to achieve and reflected on the strategies I was employing. These are long term strategies I have had to use all my adult life and I use them every day in my spiritual work as well. I was so, so proud of myself, that I gave it a go and did not let my fear take over. You don’t have to have a disability to find yourself at a dead end and maybe you will recognise some parts of yourself here. So what was it that made the day so amazing....
Accepting help: Not just asking for help...accepting help. I realised that one of the hardest hurdles I had faced is not about asking for help, it was actually realising I needed help. Once I used to be so wrapped up in my idea of independence that it was not on my radar that I could even ask for help. I truly believed I had to do it all myself. It took a friend to really sit me down and explain the suffering she witnessed and how help would improve my quality of life. I was gobsmacked, I had no idea I was living so poorly. It did take some convincing and trust that I would not be ridiculed for not being “able.” It changed my life and it improved the respect I had for myself, once I understood that to believe I deserved help before it worked for me. On my walk I had help and, I asked for help whenever I needed it and, I accepted help when it was offered, with no feelings of embarrassment. That was simply because I believed I deserved this amazing experience and I was going to accept all that was on offer to achieve it. I wasn’t going to miss out!
Anxiety is my friend: I was anxious most of the time because some of the walk stretched my physical limitations and I did not want to fall over or slip. My anxiety was my watch dog and my moderator. It kept me focused on every step. I truly practiced mindfulness because every step counted. As a result I was fully immersed in the amazing contour and texture of the gorge I was travelling. I did not have much thinking time for any problems or worries. I was fully present. Thank you anxiety :)
Be creative: all my adult life I have been in training for this walk. There were some parts where I was very physically challenged and the person who was supporting me made suggestions that were very logical and sensible. I showed him my solutions which were funny to watch but worked for me. Sometimes I had to slide along on my backside, sometimes I had to take a long way around. My years of living with limitations has always paid off with my expanded creative mind. I’ve had to work my personal solutions for every day activities that most people do not have to think twice about. I’m very proud of that.
Letting go of what others think of me: If you’re a Friends fan then you may remember the episode where Rachel snubs Phoebe because of her running style. I’m Phoebe most of the time. I move in a weird way, I make noises like tennis players sometimes to get me past a pain moment but mostly I am slow and thoughtful. I look clunky and in the past I’ve had loved ones make some disparaging remarks. Sometimes random people would be impatient and nearly knock me over trying to get past me. I laugh about it now but once upon a time it made me different and I didn’t want to be noticed like that. I have had some very embarrassing moments, some very traumatic moments and some very sad, sad moments because of my disability. I use those moments now to keep me going. I remember what has been stripped away, there is not much more to be exposed and I weigh up the option of doing nothing and missing out or having a go and maybe I will feel better about giving it a go, too bad if I look funny. Even I laugh about it now, so many silly moments....
The end result of my travels through the Karijini National Park...I won!! I did it and I didn’t get scared and run away, I problem solved and my reward was to swim in the most amazing natural water pools in a truly spiritual place.
I consider myself fortunate these days. If I did not have this disability I would not be where I am, doing what I love. I overcame fear of rejection, I learned my value and I live my true self. If I did not have this disability I would truly be lost, I was heading that way when it struck. It has taken me years of training and determination to have the best life and times I knew was waiting for me. I eventually realised that nobody and nothing was going to swing by and fix it. I chose to make it better. I chose life.
Do you know what happened once I made that choice.... Spirit stepped in and lifted me to even greater heights than I could imagine. That’s how I live and that is why I do what I do. My mission is to help you understand your power. When you access that power and begin to choose your own adventure, life begins. The signs and guides you are looking for make themselves known. They can only help when you are working for your highest good. You show yourself you’re worth it and it is reflected in the help you receive. You show yourself you are not worthy and that is reflected in the help you receive. The way forward is in your hands, what will you choose?
With love, Vicki xx
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