Be The Change You Want To See In The World. Be The Master Of Your Destiny

Sometimes inspirational signs or writing come along at just the right time… 
They make me stop and think about my own world view. Once upon a time I would fear my negative thoughts. I was very afraid they would have an immediate effect and my energy, my Soul, my aura would all be tainted. I was in constant fear I would push my spiritual development backwards. I fought hard to make myself more forgiving, compassionate and grateful.  

Do you know what happened?…
I ended up keeping the terrible people and damaging situations close by until I was able to heal the uncomfortable feelings. Pfftt, never going to happen. I was trying to control others rather than looking honestly at myself. I finally realised that keeping the damaging people and situations close by was doing the very thing I was trying to avoid. I was crippling myself, physically, mentally and spiritually.

So, I went back to the drawing board…
I put down the books I was reading. (which is where a lot of misinformation was coming from). I let go of the teachers and mentors that kept me in a state of fear (it was in their best interests to victimise others to feel power). I talked to my guides, I communed with my Soul, my inner wisdom, found more compassionate teachers and discovered my own path.

Which was lucky because…
One day I was in a situation where I could not reconcile my circumstances and the damaging negative thoughts came thick and fast. I was hating the people who had power over me. They were using their positions of power to bully me and no amount of compassion, forgiveness or gratitude brought a resolution. I was more terrified of my negative thoughts than the bullies. The affirmations, protective bubbles and loving thoughts were useless, plus pushing the thoughts down was making me physically sick. I am an adaptor. If I find myself in a difficult relationship or job, I adapt. People who are psychic, sensitive, empathic know what I’m talking about. We know how to read the room and we think we can control the room. Before you know it, you are floored.

I needed a new strategy…
I remember a distant healing technique I’d learned and I adapted it to this situation. I created an energy vortex coming from my crown chakra and sent my thoughts, all the ugly ones, to the Spirit world. Effectively, I had surrendered my need to control the bullies and let the energy of Spirit do the heavy lifting on this one. It worked a treat.

So what happened?…
As in all situations where I have felt this powerless, the Universe was reminding me it was time to move on. So, I surrendered the whole situation, the way forward was revealed to me and all I had to do was step into the opportunities that magically turned up. A lot was taken out of my hands and the best possible outcome occurred. 

Mind you…
I still had to make the decisions and take responsibility for those decisions but with the power of Spirit backing me, the way was crystal clear. I moved on from the job, money came from all angles and opened up the opportunity to work as a psychic and healer full time. My dream job.

So here’s the verse, attributed to Lao Tzu, I came across that gave words to this process. 

Watch your thoughts, they become your words. 

• Words have power. Saying the thoughts out loud, however, does give you the opportunity to decide whether you want to keep them.

Watch your words, they become actions.

• Once you voice your thoughts, if they make sense, you want to try them out. When you act on them they will create a neural pathway like setting something into a mould. 

Watch your actions, they become habits.

• This is where your neural pathway becomes your best or worst friend and if you’ve ever smoked or craved something you will know what I mean.

Watch your habits, they become your character.

• If your newly created and nurtured neurons are firing then you will want to satisfy that desire regularly. You will seek out people, social groups and places that accept you and your new behaviours, because it feels good.

Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.

• At this point you should be able to see where you are headed. You have enough information and experience to decide whether this is where you would like to go.

I always liked this verse because as long as you are making conscious decisions and tuning in to your Soul Wisdom at every checkpoint, you get to decide. Is this what you would like your destiny to be? 

I’ll say it again… 
YOU GET TO CHOOSE. How fabulous is that. Life is not out of your hands, it is your life, not Spirits, not your teachers or gurus, and definitely not your friends and family. 

One last point. Forgiveness, Gratitude and Compassion are not things you can make yourself do. Sometimes you are in a place where you need to feel unforgiving, angry and selfish in order to move into a more healing heart space. Forgiveness, Gratitude and Compassion are states of being, not doing. You evolve into these states and act without a second thought. When I hear someone say to me they must be more forgiving when they’re clearly angry or I’m don’t like this situation but I’m grateful for the experience or I must be more compassionate then put treat themselves as if they don’t matter, I remind them that these feelings of anger, resentment and shame must be expressed so they may move forward. If you do not experience the so called “negative” feelings you will never know Forgiveness, Gratitude or Compassion in their fullness. They wait for you on the other side. 

​I absolutely recommend using the exercise of the Crown Chakra Vortex as a way of transmuting your troubling thoughts. Or, you could use the Morning Pages which I have up on my website, just CLICK HERE for the link.

With Love
​Vicki xx